At first thought, it becomes clear that these 'lovers' find it impossible to take a rejection, and rather feel humiliated. But, how do we resolve the complexity of the rage that erupts from this 'love'? May be by providing an alternative to express the anger and hurt caused by a 'NO'.
An alternative to acid attack, or to any intent of harming the person you dreamt of being together with; and this alternative of a peaceful disagreement is Black Rose. A Black Rose- in protest of the love that culminates in hurt, abuse or violence being caused to one of the two people involved (And in some weird cases, an unaware third person, like the Ludhiana girl Harpreet, become the victim of this 'love' that propagates hate and revenge.
Addressing the people at the Mumbai Spot of Shame- Bandra terminus- acid attack fighter and the face of our campaign, Laxmi rightly said, “If you can not do good to a girl, please do not even dare to harm her.” Give a Black Rose instead. A Black Rose signifying that you are hurt with the actions of the other. A Black Rose to let the other know that you are suffering. And suffering does not entitle you to take revenge from the one who causes it. Our own actions and thoughts lead us to our suffering, which eventually plays an important part in our own growth as a person.
Give a Black Rose to the one who has been troubling you with constant harassment of expressing his/her interest in you. Give it to the one who is contributing in this pollution of love, which has, to a large extent, changed the definition of this vital word.
Since we believe an eye for an eye will leave us all blind, it is iminent to get rid of this 'acidic' behavior within us. Even if a girl has slapped you and refused to talk, give her a Black Rose, in order to register your disagreement with their behavior. By harming her, you will only harm yourself more.
Let us save love as we understood it from within. Let us avoid popular culture from infecting it. Let us protest against this intent of physical abuse, which is conveniently reported as a result of a “one sided love affair”.